Individual sessions in Berlin: relationships and sex, on your own Neukölln, Prenzlauer Berg and online
In individual sessions in Berlin you work on what occupies you in relationships and in your sexuality, with or without a partner at the moment. That includes individual sex therapy and working on couples issues on your own when your partner doesn’t want to come. We meet at my practices in Neukölln and Prenzlauer Berg or online, in English or in German.
When relationships keep getting difficult
Some people live without a partner for years. Others keep ending up in relationships that aren’t good for them, or quickly feel overwhelmed once things get close. Maybe you have the sense that you keep choosing the wrong person. And at some point the thought arrives: “I’m just not capable of a relationship.”
Sometimes it is about sex. Desire is missing, shame or pressure to perform gets in the way, or you wonder what you actually enjoy. You can work on that entirely on your own. More on this under sex therapy.
Ending up in the same relationship patterns again and again is no coincidence. It has a history.
Individual sessions in Neukölln, Prenzlauer Berg or online
Prenzlauer Berg, Neukölln or online – choose whatever suits you best.
Prenzlauer Berg practice
4.9 out of 5· 14 reviewsAm Friedrichshain 22
10407 Berlin
- Tram M4, buses 142 and 200 (stop Am Friedrichshain)
- Mon–Fri, 10 am–8 pm, by arrangement
- In English or German
- Not wheelchair accessible – online sessions possible
Neukölln practice
5.0 out of 5· 7 reviewsKarl-Marx-Straße 7
12043 Berlin
- U7/U8 Hermannplatz (a few minutes' walk)
- Mon–Fri, 10 am–8 pm, by arrangement
- In English or German
- Not wheelchair accessible – online sessions possible
Online sessions
By encrypted video, in English or German. Fully online or alternating with sessions at the practice.
Relationship patterns have a history
Being able to have relationships is not a given. It grows out of our experiences, above all out of our earliest attachments. What we learned as children about closeness and trust shapes how we love and argue as adults. If closeness used to feel unsafe or overwhelming, this sometimes shows up later in patterns that tend to separate rather than connect. That is not a personal failure. It is something that can be understood.
Reasons for individual sessions
- being single for a long time and wanting a relationship
- low self-esteem and doubting yourself
- sensing your needs better and saying them more clearly
- finding it easier to trust in relationships
- understanding what keeps repeating in your relationships
- a break-up that stays with you
- questions about desire and what you want
- couples issues you want to start on alone
You can work on these themes with me on your own, in my Berlin practice or online. If you like, we can talk on the phone for 15 minutes first, free of charge.
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Three examples from my practice
These examples are generalised. They describe concerns I often meet, not individual people.
Ejaculation comes sooner than you’d like
Many men come to me under a lot of pressure because they ejaculate early. They want sex to feel good for their partner. The wish is usually: to last longer. Together we look at what makes ejaculation come early and which needs get too little room during sex. More on this under sex therapy.
Little experience with relationships and sex
Some people have had few or no experiences with relationships or sex so far. Every year the pressure of missing out grows. Secretly they want a relationship. At the same time, letting someone in is frightening. We look at where this fear comes from. Not everyone was able to experience with their first caregivers that closeness is safe. That is not a question of blame. But it explains why closeness can feel hard today.
The same kind of partner, again and again
Some people keep getting involved with partners who aren’t available: they barely show themselves, swing between closeness and withdrawal, and leave you guessing where you stand. I look with them at what they are trying to achieve in these relationships and why they end up in the same pattern. Often something repeats itself that they know from their own life. It has nothing to do with being incapable of relationships.
How we work in individual sessions
Often there is a question at the start that you have been asking yourself for a long time. Why do I keep ending up in similar situations? What makes closeness difficult for me? What am I actually looking for in a partnership, and what am I avoiding?
We look at the patterns behind this and at the needs that stay unmet in them. Then we look for words for them. Mostly we talk. Body-oriented sequences come in as well: awareness, breath, expression through the voice. How much of this we do depends on what suits you. More on this under body-oriented therapy.
Couples therapy alone: working on couples issues by yourself
Your partner doesn’t want to come to couples therapy? Then you are welcome to come alone. We look at what is happening in your relationship and what your part in it is. And what do you need yourself? Sometimes that is a good first step – and sometimes the other person joins later.
Individual sessions in Berlin
An individual session lasts 60 minutes. We meet at my practice in Neukölln or Prenzlauer Berg, or online. All sessions are also possible in English.
I have lived and worked in Berlin for many years. Many of the people who come to me alone have moved here and don’t have a network yet. Others have been dating through apps for years and keep meeting new people without it turning into closeness. I describe how a first session with me goes under experiences.
Wiebke Bergermann
Fees & Process
- 1You get in touch.
By form, email or phone, whichever is easier for you. If you like, we can talk on the phone for 15 minutes first, free of charge.
- 2We start straight away.
The initial session is already our first working session. You describe what brings you, and we start working on it right away. Often something already becomes clearer. Along the way you notice whether the chemistry is right. Afterwards you decide whether to continue.
- 3We keep going.
We usually meet every two to four weeks. In between, you try out new things in everyday life. In each session we look at what has changed and what to work on next. How long we work together is something we decide together.
Fees
| in person | online | |
|---|---|---|
| Couples session | €18590 min | €12560 min |
| Individual session | €11060 min | €11060 min |
Fees per session, the same for every topic. The first session costs the same as any other.
Payment by bank transfer or PayPal. Free cancellation up to 48 hours before your appointment. Statutory health insurance does not cover the costs.
Questions about individual sessions
“I don’t really know what my issue is.”
That is enough to begin with. Many people come with a feeling that something keeps repeating, without being able to name it. In the initial session we work out together what it is about for you.
“Do I have to talk about my childhood?”
We start with what occupies you today. Often that leads on its own to earlier experiences, because patterns have a history. How far we look back is up to you.
“I’ve been in therapy before.”
Many people bring that with them, and whatever you already know about yourself comes along. With me the focus is on relationships, sexuality and the body: we talk, and we pay attention to what you feel as we do.
“I’ve just broken up.”
Then you can come in the middle of the heartbreak. First we look at what you need right now. Once things have calmed down, we also look at what kept repeating in the relationship.
You take the first step for yourself.
Write me a few lines, as much or as little as you like right now. I usually reply within 24 hours and suggest a time for an initial session.
Prefer to write or call directly?
Request an initial session.