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Sexuality as a path to vitality
and connection

Sexuality is a central component of our well-being –

It influences our joy in life, our self-image, and our relationships. In partnerships, sexuality creates closeness, intimacy, and connection. Yet this very area is often characterized by insecurities, hurt, or a feeling of distance.

When sexuality is experienced as restricted, lacking in pleasure, or unsatisfying, it can have profound effects—on one's self-esteem, the quality of relationships, and inner experience. At the same time, topics surrounding sexuality are still associated with shame in our society and are linked to many unspoken taboos.

When desire is lacking, many people think, "There's something wrong with me." But desire is as complex as we are. Sometimes 'lack of desire' doesn't mean disinterest, but rather: My body doesn't feel safe. Or: I'm not connected internally.

In my sexual therapy work, I combine body-oriented, psychodynamic, and relationship-centered methods. Central to this is the careful and honest exploration of desires, boundaries, and inhibitions. Together, we identify stressful aspects and illuminate the often unconscious underlying causes—be they stemming from biography, relationship experiences, or socially learned patterns. Body-therapeutic approaches support the sense of needs and boundaries, so that not only the mind but also the body is involved in the process.

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An important part of therapy is finding a language for what may have been impossible to express before: shame, desires, fantasies, pain. Over time, this can create space again – for sexual vitality, for genuine connection, and for a self-determined, fulfilling experience of closeness and intimacy.


Reasons for sexual therapy

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  • Lack of desire, difficulty arousing or erectile dysfunction

  • Dissatisfaction with sex in marriages or long-term relationships

  • Discomfort or pain during sex

  • premature / delayed / absent ejaculation

  • Experiences of violence of a sexual nature

  • Feelings of shame regarding one's own sexuality/sexuality in general

  • Pressure to perform and fear of failure


Sexual crises are opportunities for development. Sexuality is not just an expression of desire and connection—it is also a reflection of our inner maturity. It reveals how much we truly demand of ourselves and others, and how much we are allowed to demand. A sexual crisis—as challenging as it may be—can be precisely the impetus needed to discover ourselves on a deeper level. Showing oneself authentically in sexuality means revealing all of one's facets. It opens up the possibility of questioning old patterns, getting to know oneself anew, and allowing internal and external relationships to mature.

Talking about desire is an act of intimacy.

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