You ejaculate sooner than you would like, and with every time the pressure grows. In sex therapy we look at what is driving it and what you actually need during sex. You come on your own or with your partner.
When sex becomes a test
Many men go into sex with a countdown in their head. They think about all sorts of things, just not about what is happening right now. Afterwards comes the shame, sometimes an apology. At some point some men avoid sex altogether, even though they long for closeness.
The wish most men bring to me is: to last longer. Often there is a second wish behind it: that sex is good for the other person, and that they themselves can finally relax.
What can lie behind it
Coming early is not a sign that something is wrong with you. It often has to do with tension: if you get aroused fast and strongly and hold your body tight while it happens, you come sooner. Add to that images of how a man is supposed to be in bed, and the fear of disappointing someone.
Sometimes it also shows that something in your sexuality is getting too little room. What do you like? What don’t you dare to say?
How I work
We talk openly about how sex goes for you, what happens inside you beforehand and what happens afterwards. I ask about your history with sexuality and about what you wish for.
Then there is the body: breathing, movement, perceiving your own arousal. In sex therapy I don’t touch you, and your clothes stay on. If you like exercises, you get suggestions to take home.
If your partner comes along, we also look at what happens between you when it was quick again.
Please also have a doctor check whether there is a physical cause.
Together we can practise noticing your arousal earlier. We can meet in my Berlin practice or online, on your own or as a couple. If you like, we can talk on the phone for 15 minutes first, free of charge.
Request an initial sessionProcess and fees
An individual session lasts 60 minutes, a couples session in the practice 90 minutes. You come to the practice. For conversations, for example about how you deal with it as a couple, we can also meet online. The initial session is already our first real working session. How long we work together is something we discuss jointly.
Fees
| in person | online | |
|---|---|---|
| Individual session | €11060 min | €11060 min |
| Couples session | €18590 min | €12560 min |
Fees per session, the same for every topic. The first session costs the same as any other.
Payment by bank transfer or PayPal. Free cancellation up to 48 hours before your appointment. Statutory health insurance does not cover the costs.
Am Friedrichshain 22
10407 Berlin
- Tram M4, buses 142 and 200 (stop Am Friedrichshain)
- Mon–Fri, 10 am–8 pm, by arrangement
- In English or German
- Not wheelchair accessible – online sessions possible
Karl-Marx-Straße 7
12043 Berlin
- U7/U8 Hermannplatz (a few minutes' walk)
- Mon–Fri, 10 am–8 pm, by arrangement
- In English or German
- Not wheelchair accessible – online sessions possible
Online sessions
By encrypted video, in English or German. Fully online or alternating with sessions at the practice.
Questions about sex therapy for premature ejaculation
“Isn’t it strange to talk about this with a woman?”
Many men have this worry before the first session. I talk about sex clearly and without judging. Whether it feels right for you, you will find out in the initial session. If you like, we can talk on the phone for 15 minutes first, free of charge.
“Will I get techniques so I can last longer?”
Sometimes exercises are part of it. The focus, though, is on understanding what is going on inside you. Technique alone rarely takes the pressure away.
“Where can I read more about the topic?”
In the guide premature ejaculation I explain what can lie behind it.
Two sentences are enough to begin with.
A sentence or two is enough. I usually reply within 24 hours and suggest a time for an initial session.
